The Long Stretch

spring-thaw_28698988-670x446Baseball Spring Training has kicked off.  For our minors teams, that started yesterday.  March 20th marks the Spring Equinox this year, so I’m not sure how it can be technically called Spring Training quite yet, but I’m not in the business of figuring that stuff out.  I guess, they feel it’s close enough.

It seems like we’re all in that seventh-inning stretch, though, cheering for Spring to officially arrive.  We’re tired of the dismal, temperamental weather and I know my kids can all but taste Spring Break right around the corner.  More of my flowers are blooming with aspirations of survival, and even the summer insects are drowsily creeping out of their hibernating hovels to see what’s going on.  A friend of mine got stung by a bee last weekend, no joke.

This year, I’m concentrating on the new season bringing about new, better changes for my little corner of the world.  I’m hoping to have another book submitted to my publisher and new, healthier habits more firmly set into place.  Most people put all of their resolution stock in the New Year – but Spring is the time for rebirth and the renewal of brighter, warmer, longer days – so, I’m focusing my energy there.

No season is a miracle season, of course, but goals do seem more attainable when the sun is out.  🙂

No, Thank You!

I resolved awhile ago to stop making New Year’s Resolutions.  Why set myself up for failure?  Life has that well enough in hand without any help from little ol’ me.   Instead, I try to make both yearly and shorter-term goals, with the acceptance that shit happens, so if they don’t get done, it wasn’t meant to be.

Some will view that as laziness or lack of drive, ambition – I call it letting yourself off the hook for those things beyond your control, because you already have this lovely world to contend with, so why in the hell would you join the ranks against yourself?  Let it go.  Believe it or not, YOU ARE the ONLY ONE expecting you to be perfect – everyone else loves you for who you are – and if they don’t, they don’t deserve to be a part of your amazing life.

I can tell you that I’m aiming to get another book submitted to my publisher ASAP.  Possibly even before New Year’s, but most certainly before Spring.  (See how I give myself leeway, there?) I pray every day that both me and my wonderful children make it through their teen years (long-term) and strive every day not to trade them in for new, upgraded models (short term).  🙂

There are a lot of things I wish for, but I refuse to put them into the category of resolutions or goals, because in my opinion, they’re simply not realistic.  Weight loss, breaking bad habits, eating better, volunteering, donating – anything you only seem to think about heavily at this time of year – don’t bother putting them on your list of Resolutions.

If you were that dedicated to seeing them done, they’d already be done.  You’d already be on a better diet, going to the gym, volunteering at the local food drive, not biting your nails and donating to a wonderful charity.  I’m not saying that attempting to improve your life is a bad thing or even a waste of time – I do attempt to improve myself and my life – I just refuse to do it in a way that makes me feel like a big fat failure when it doesn’t get done either as quickly as I wanted, or at all.

Change your negative stresses out, turn them into something positive – celebrate the small steps, rather than holding off for the trophy at the end – give yourself happy incentives, rather than self-berating lectures.  Honestly, if you can’t cut yourself some slack or give yourself a break every once in awhile – then how can you expect anyone else to?  We teach other people how to treat us.  Start being your best friend, not your drill sergeant, and just watch how others start reacting to you.

So, wasn’t intending for this to be a self-help post, or whatever you want to call it – but here it is.  Hey, look, I accomplished something I hadn’t even set out to do! Yay, me!  I just really enjoy the crazy, brilliant, creative, wonderfully diverse community we have here, so I hope maybe this is found a little useful by someone.  If not – no big – I’m sure I’ll be rambling about something else next week! 😉